Body Shaming | Part 1

What even is a 'perfect body'? Who decides what that is? Everybody has a different perception of perfection. What one person sees as unattractive, could be somebody else's ideal. I think my sister is perfect, I think certain shoes are perfect, some days to me are perfect, drinks, food but not everybody has the same opinions as me and could see what I see as perfect as complete shit, but that's irreverent to me because I think it's perfect. It doesn't matter what other people think about your physique, if you are happy with yourself, that's all that matters and if you're not, change it? I know for some people you can't physically/emotionally but then you need to learn to love yourself because you are more important than anything else. You do not need to change yourself for anybody ever.

It is so easy to judge people, say hateful things without even realising that your words could really put them down. People on the internet are always dragging people down, It is not OK, it will never be OK to publicly shame somebody for their appearance. The media are to blame for the amount of shaming there is. Comparing older celebrities who have had children to these young, fresh on the scene celebs is completely wrong. labeling somebody as 'fat' because she hasn't got a completely flat stomach, what is that? People tweeting celebrities saying how awful they look because they haven't got super thin legs, or whatever. People are people. Everybody is different but were all the same in the way that if somebody calls out on your insecurites it hurts.

Why is it that no matter what size you are, somebody has something to criticise you for? Everybody nowadays is so judgmental. I haven't a clue why but it should seriously stop. And it's not just guys shaming girls, it's girls against girls, girls shaming guys and then guys vs guys. Why is it anybodies place to say anything about YOUR body. Do people shame people because they aren't happy with their own appearance, so it's only right to make somebody feel  as bad as you do? It's not OK.

I have more to say about this topic and will write about it again in the near future.

Let me know what you think. Thanks for reading.

Chloë X

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False Charity

I am not the most charitable person but I do what I can when I can. I give away loose change when I have it on me, I'll text £5 to whatever charities when I'm asked on the street and if I walk past a homeless person and I have anything on me I'll give them what I've got. I mean people can be really rude with giving away money but its just small things that you can live without could help someone else a tremendous amount. When I do give money to either a charity or somebody on the street, in myself I feel happy. I may have made that person happy, smile or helped them slightly. I don't expect people to be like 'Oh wow! What a lovely girl' you know, but all I see now is people expecting respect because they've given money or whatever away, 

Knowing myself that I've done a good deed is enough for me. I think it is kind of gross of people to film themselves giving money away, buying a McDonalds for somebody on the street so that people on social media can see them doing something nice. I don't understand why people feel the need to have thousands of views and admiration because they have been charitable. It takes the goodness away from the good deed I think, 'oh hey look at me I gave food to a homeless man share this so I can get more attention' like they crave internet popularity more than that person needed that money or food? Doesn't really make sense.

SO many people do stuff like that daily out of the goodness of their hearts, not to get a few hundred likes, retweets and shares? They don't expect to get anything from it, so I don't understand why people fall at peoples feet just because somebody was filmed giving it away. 

I was out in Canterbury the other night with people from my friends university and as we walked (or stumbled shall I say) out of subway at 4am a homeless lady was kindly asking for money and a girl we were with went over and gave her her change and the cookie she got. Seeing her do it filled me with happiness, it was such a lovely thing to do, just a act of kindness. She expected nothing in return and I think that is what charity is. It's not about having people praising you, its doing it to genuinely help.

People need to stop caring so much about 'street cred' so to speak, and do more of what matters because the goodness is taken out of it when the only reason you gave to charity is to get noticed online.

What do you think?

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Chloë X

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