Just a Thought

I think there is too much negativity and sadness around at the moment, unhappiness is an all time high. And it's sad because it's so easy to make somebody smile, whether it be showing an interest in their day, paying them a complement or just smiling at them. If anything were ever to happen to people you love you would regret not telling them that you loved them enough. I have a really strong friendships with people because it's so easy to be genuine and tell them how much you're thankful for their companionship, that you love them, that they look beautiful and just showing them general respect. ''You look nice today'' I don't know, just simple things that make people feel good about themselves. My friends and I are always dropping random complements in our conversations and each time it feels nicer to receive. I really don't think we tell people how much we appreciate them enough. 

When I am working if I like a customers hair, nails, clothing or whatever I'll tell them. I'm not afraid to tell people they look good. Seeing a genuine smile from them afterwards is so nice. I hope that something that was so natural and easy to say could have made that persons day. I just wish more people were comfortable with telling people that like what they've done with their hair, or whatever because it's the simple things that go a long way.

Sometimes nice words go over your head. But sometimes they stay with you and when you're feeling unhappy with yourself you remind yourself of when these kind things were said about you. For example, about 4 years ago I was waiting for a friend to get off of her bus and two old ladies got off and without any hesitation said that I was beautiful to my face and spoke so lovely about me to her friend. It still makes me smile all these years later. Negative things however are much easier to remember, again,  for example; the very first time I met my ex's friends about 3/4 years ago (I was youngish and very shy) I heard one girl say "she's pretty", in which another responded "yeah for Shrek" in which they then were laughing and saying "Fiona" behind my back for the whole time I was there and as we walked away. Firstly, I don't know who these girls were, nor do I care, but what I do know is that they made me feel so fucking shit and insecure and I still today think how nasty that was. Secondly I fucking hate Shrek so it was a double insult. Anyway, I'm not green so I try not take it to heart. If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything. It is shit that something that they probably cannot even remember saying still pisses me off years later. But then this works either way I guess, if you make somebody happy with a words you've said it would feel so nice knowing that they still are thankful for what you said that random day 4 years ago.

It's so easy to be nice. It's totally cool to not like somebody, you won't always get on with everyone, but don't be a dick about it. Be nice to people. I just think if everyone were to just be nice, and if you think somebody looks nice, TELL THEM they might be having a really shitty day and you could completely change that. Make people smile, it's nice. 

Let me know what you want next. 

Thank You!

Chloë X

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Same Sex Relationships

I watched a video a while back of a man suggesting how absurd it would be if schools were to teach children about gay relationships in Religious Studies or whatever lesson. It was really disgusting,the way he spoke about it, like it would poisoning young children, that we’d be implying that being with the same sex is normal. What he was saying was really offensive and VERY discriminating. He was clearly severely homophobic (although he denied that).

I then thought to myself  when I was younger I remember seeing same sex couple and thinking that it was wrong, because I'd never seen it before (I regret that now). But back then I didn’t understand that not everybody is the same and they didn’t have to be. I think now, that it should be compulsory to educate children on the topic. People are so against gay relationships because they’ve only been shown one way. People are afraid to say they’re attracted to the same sex because people are only taught that men and women should be together.  It’s so wrong that peoples feelings are suppressed due to social norms. It should change rapidly. I want my children (when I/If I have them) to be happy with who they love and feel comfortable with their sexuality, not anxious and worried of what others will think. Society will collapse in the future if people continue to look down on same sex couples and people are never told that it’s okay to be gay. It’s wrong on so many levels.

I think it is funny how 'gay' was/is used as a insult, I remember when I was younger replying to this with ''Gay means happy'' and I was right, I guess. I am straight, however I know what love is, and I know that if you are in a same sex relationship it must make you happy, so be it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being attracted to the same sex. You are who you are. It makes me sick that people have ended their beautiful lives because of the fear of people opinions/reaction to their sexuality. People should not have their emotions eat them up because society tells them that their feelings are corrupt. 

I think my generation is much more understanding of homosexuals however there is still a long way to go. You're a shitty person if you look at somebody differently, or your opinions change because somebody is dating somebody of the same sex. 

                                                   
Gay - ''light-hearted and carefree''

What's next?

Chloë X

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My First Blog Post

As this being my first blog post to keep (you very few) readers from moving on from my blog I will TRY (empathesis on the try if you hadn't noticed already) keep this quite short and simple.

                                       

                                                                                                               (me)

I am currently 18, almost 19 (not that that's relevant). Anyway, a brief synopsis of what I like is as follows; I'm not musically talented in anyway but (like every person ever) I love music, going to gigs, concerts, live music I just love it. I spent the majority of my childhood and teenage years being a shy awkward and moderately miserable girl but after realising I really need to grow up I'm A LOT more confident (but still need a little bit of work). I have three best friends, 1. Lives in Essex, we've been friends since we were 4. 2. Just moved to university, when I moved secondary school she was my designated 'Buddy', I wasn't too sure at first but we've been inseparable since and last by certainly not least, number 3. My 17 year old sister. As sad as that may sound they are literally the three most perfect and beautiful people in my life and I wouldn't want to live life without them. 

                                      My sister and I in Brugge, Belguim August, 2015.

I'm no expert but again (like every girl ever) I love putting on my make-up to make myself feel pretty. I have trialed and error-ed for years and can now averagely apply eye-shadow but simply cannot and will not trust myself with winged eyeliner. // I like photography // I wasn't a big reader until summer last year. // I love heeled boots, shoes, clothes and fashion in general however working part-time in Next isn't funding this as much as I would hope. (It's full-time o'clock as I do nothing with my time and still need to figure out a career path lol). // I'm a walking cliche, I love cats, though i do not have one, I'm a frequent Starbucks customer. Still a huge Bieber fan, I love eating out in restaurants, I adore Mexican food. I love dead roses (and alive ones) there is a lot more to say but I think I'll call it a day. 

Obviously this isn't me inside out, you still only know the basics, if you even stayed long enough to read any of this anyway. But I like writing, I like the internet and I guess I thought it would be remotely cool if people enjoyed reading what I write instead of it going unread on my Tumblr or in my little diaries I keep. I guess I'll write about anything from my views on things to my opinion on the semi-tragic society we currently live in. 

What else do you want to know or hear about?
Thanks for your time, really.

Chloë X

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